Comments on: The “Please” and “Thank You” Debate https://www.veipd.org/earlyintervention/2014/12/02/the-please-and-thank-you-debate/ Sharing What Works in Supporting Infants & Toddlers and the Families in Early Intervention Thu, 05 Nov 2020 19:53:38 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.8.3 By: Dana Childress, M.Ed. https://www.veipd.org/earlyintervention/2014/12/02/the-please-and-thank-you-debate/#comment-1297 Mon, 26 Jan 2015 13:44:54 +0000 https://veipd.org/earlyintervention/?p=2286#comment-1297 In reply to Lauren.

Fantastic strategies! Being more specific and using wait time are two of the best top communication strategies!

]]> By: Lauren https://www.veipd.org/earlyintervention/2014/12/02/the-please-and-thank-you-debate/#comment-1296 Mon, 26 Jan 2015 12:22:37 +0000 https://veipd.org/earlyintervention/?p=2286#comment-1296 I typically encourage them to acknowledge their child’s attempt to communicate, but to model a more specific word (e.g., “cookie” vs. “more” or “please”). That way, they are reinforcing their child, but they are also identifying and taking advantage of natural learning opportunities. I also encourage use of “wait time” with children who might actually have a few more words in their vocabulary, to encourage them to “dig a little deeper” than those easy-to-access nonspecific words or signs.

]]> By: Dana Childress, M.Ed. https://www.veipd.org/earlyintervention/2014/12/02/the-please-and-thank-you-debate/#comment-1295 Thu, 22 Jan 2015 15:37:23 +0000 https://veipd.org/earlyintervention/?p=2286#comment-1295 In reply to Lauren Piccillo.

Great strategy, Lauren! Talking about typical vocabulary is a great starting point, because your next question can be: “So, what specific words would you like to hear him say?” You can also go back to the family routines and activities they shared on the IFSP and query for important words. Moving beyond “please” or “more” can be challenging. What do you suggest to the parent to help the child move past that point?

]]> By: Lauren Piccillo https://www.veipd.org/earlyintervention/2014/12/02/the-please-and-thank-you-debate/#comment-1294 Wed, 21 Jan 2015 16:56:10 +0000 https://veipd.org/earlyintervention/?p=2286#comment-1294 I feel like I have this conversation with families at least once per week, and I end up saying many of the same things you shared above! I find it to be a pretty difficult habit to break, especially if the child has begun to say “please” and is having a more difficult time adding more specific words to their vocabulary to make requests. I do tend to liken “please/thank you” to “more” in terms of the parents’ ability to understand exactly what it is that their child wants, and try to talk about what a “typical” early toddler vocabulary looks like (e.g., first 25-50 words are often mostly nouns).

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