Starting off on the Right or Wrong Foot…<\/strong><\/h2>\nAs enthusiastic as we are about the work we do, it’s challenging when a family member does not share that view. It can be especially challenging when it becomes personal. The grandmother in this scenario is clearly an important person to have on your side, as far as supporting Xavier’s development. Even though she has her doubts, she is letting the service provider in her home and is being honest about what she thinks. It’s up to the service provider, then, to listen with an open mind,\u00a0get to know her, find out what she wants for her grandson, and find a way to work together. Building\u00a0a trusting rapport, being open to the grandmother’s expertise about raising children, and taking the opportunity to help her learn about early intervention are great places to start.<\/p>\n
If you were supporting Xavier’s family, what would you do?<\/h2>\n
What would you say in response to the grandmother’s doubts?<\/strong><\/p>\nWould you correct her and explain the research behind early intervention?<\/strong><\/p>\nWould you call the service coordinator for assistance?<\/strong><\/p>\nHow would you partner with\u00a0her to help Xavier?<\/strong><\/p>\nShare your ideas and experiences with similar situations in the comments below!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
When you first meet Xavier’s family, you learn that he and his mother live with her parents. Xavier’s grandmother “keeps” him during the day while his mom is at work.\u00a0Xavier’s mother is very interested in early intervention but her mother is not.\u00a0The grandmother\u00a0thinks that he will talk when he’s ready and that there is nothing […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_s2mail":"yes","footnotes":""},"categories":[139,10,12,14,19],"tags":[31,37,38,43,46,48,50,58,59,62,67,79,80,86,112,125],"class_list":["post-1299","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-all","category-engaging-collaborating-with-families","category-intervention-visits","category-practical-strategies-for-intervention","category-what-would-you-do","tag-challenges","tag-collaboration","tag-communication-development","tag-daily-routines","tag-development","tag-early-childhood","tag-early-intervention","tag-families","tag-family-centered-practices","tag-home-visits","tag-implementation","tag-natural-environment","tag-natural-learning-opportunities","tag-parent-professional-partnership","tag-strategies","tag-toddlers","clearfix"],"yoast_head":"\n
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When you first meet Xavier’s family, you learn that he and his mother live with her parents. Xavier’s grandmother “keeps” him during the day while his mom is at work.\u00a0Xavier’s mother is very interested in early intervention but her mother is not.\u00a0The grandmother\u00a0thinks that he will talk when he’s ready and that there is nothing to worry about.\u00a0On your first visit, she makes a point of telling you that she has raised 5 children and\u00a03 were late-talkers and they are fine now. She wonders –\u00a0out loud –\u00a0if early intervention is just a scam to get insurance money…<\/p>\n