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  • Get Him Engaged! – 5 Strategies for Engaging Toddlers with ASD(current)

You’re on a first visit with the family of a toddler who is suspected of having an autism spectrum disorder (ASD). You greet the mother and try to say “hi” to the child, but he wanders away to continue his circuit around the room.  As you watch, he picks up toys and dropToddler Playing with Cars on Floors them, dances in front of the TV when a commercial comes on, then picks up his favorite car and drives it along the back of the couch. All the while he never responds to you and fleetingly looks at his mother who tells you that he loves his car game. So what do you do? How do you get him engaged?

Toddlers with ASD can have amazing strengths at entertaining themselves but find interacting with others very difficult. With a few tricks of the trade, you can pull the child in and help him learn that interacting is fun and useful. Sometimes it helps to out a strategy yourself, but always remember that the goal is to help him interact with his parents because they will be his partners during the week when you are not there!

Here are a few strategies to try:

Find Out What the Mother Would Do First

Ask the mother to tell you more about how the child plays and spends his time. Ask if she ever joins him in this game. Ask if she’ll show you how she would play with him. She might already know some great tricks to get him engaged so ask her before you jump in!

Start with Imitation

Pick up another car and drive it along the same path on the back of the couch. Just imitate him without demanding that he do anything. At first, you just want to help him get comfortable with you in his space.

Introduce “My Turn, Your Turn”

After he’s comfortable, introduce simple turn-taking by just using the words and pausing every so often for him to take a turn. He might not realize he’s taking a turn at first but that’s okay because you are teaching him. Put your hand in his path for your turn and say “my turn.” When he moves your hand or bumps you with his car, say “your turn” them move your hand. If he pushes his car off of the edge of the couch, you do the same thing to take your turn. You might catch his car as your turn then give it back to him so he can take his turn.

Keep It Going As Long As You Can

Keep the engagement and turn-taking going as long as you can to help him expand his abilities to interact and communicate. Be careful not to push him to becoming too upset and back off when you need to.  Let him take short breaks where you don’t interfere in his play. You won’t want engagement to be too stressful or he will avoid you or leave the area. Always try to bring him back to the game after a break or if needed, switch to another activity if you sense that he’s had enough of this one. Take it slow and try to make it fun!

Coach the Parent to Try the Strategies

If you can, START by explaining the strategies then ask the parent if she would like to try them out with your help. Gently coach her through what to do and praise her efforts. Point out when you see the child become engaged. Afterwards, ask the parent what she thought and which strategies she thinks she can use when you are not there.

What else would you do in this situation? What are your tricks of the trade for getting children engaged?  Share your best strategies!

4 comments on “Get Him Engaged! – 5 Strategies for Engaging Toddlers with ASD

  • Tiffany Reynolds says:

    Those are all great tips Dana. I love the articles about real life scenarios. Each one that I have read so far has really hit home. Keep sharing your great advice 🙂

  • Colleen Gleason says:

    Loved your “my turn/your turn” suggestions, Dana.
    It’s these beginning attempts to interact that are so hard, yet serve to create a foundation for all other interaction.
    I notice that affect, or emotion, can go a long way to making this more intensive (i.e. my turn/your turn)interaction successful. A smile, wide open eyes, an intake of breath, when you take “your turn”, are all attempts to make this new interaction emotionally understandable and non threatening to the child.
    Sound effects (i.e. a train sound as you bring your hand in slowly to “block” his truck) and emotional signaling (wide eyes, and a playful “uh oh!” when you catch his truck after it rolled off the couch) help tune the child into your intentions, and into your face–and invite him or her into the fun! These natural “my turn/your turn” gestures can solidify these fragile early attempts into something wonderful.

    • These are fantastic suggestions, Colleen! Yes, adding those expressions and sound effects are what really pull the child in and make the interaction enjoyable. In fact, research with toddlers with ASD has shown this – that adding “high intensity facial expressions” and sounds are very effective for getting and keeping the child’s attention. Many parents do this naturally and others can really benefit from learning to use these simple strategies with their children themselves.


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